Forgiveness: You Go First

I’ve been ridiculously busy with my day job as an investigator at our local coroner’s office, however, I wanted to be sure to post this amazing guest post from first-time author Lee Nienhuis…

I wasn’t very far into motherhood when I began to realize that some of the misbehavior and attitude problems in my kids were caused in part by the actions and attitudes of their mother. While each of them proved at a young age that they were wicked in their own right, I can’t deny that I’ve snapped when I felt as though they were being disrespectful or taking advantage of me. I’ve been known to be selfish when they’ve interrupted my sleep, to raise my voice when it wasn’t necessary or helpful, and to fail to listen when I hurt their feelings. I’m not perfect, and I’m pretty sure you aren’t either.

Occasionally, I feel like telling the kids that the quarters I find in our laundry machines will be used to fund their counseling as adults. I can wake up to a peaceful house, make a cup of coffee, spend an hour with the Lord, and even pray for the day that lies ahead of us all…and then walk five feet into my “not a morning person” daughter’s room and need to hit my knees in repentance again.

Our job as mothers is to help our children know and experience the love of their heavenly Father. Yes, this is done when we read Scripture to them and talk to them about the Lord, but we also have the privilege and responsibility of modeling the love, discipline, forgiveness, and grace of God as well.

This is no small task. We must somehow learn to create an environment that resembles the spiritual truths at work in the gospel story. Of course, we need to teach our children there are consequences for sinful choices, but we also need to show them through the actions of our love that “if we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9).

The best way to teach children forgiveness is to go first. I want my kids to say, “Yes, my mom taught me how to ask for and give forgiveness, but the way she modeled it is what stands out in my mind. She gave me a safe opportunity to learn how to forgive by asking me often for forgiveness when she fell short.” That practice looks like God and paints the picture of the gospel story in real time.

Isn’t that what we are looking to instill in our children? Humility says, “I’ve done something wrong and I need forgiveness.” We can race to Jesus, and the offer there is an unlimited well of forgiveness for ourselves and stronger relationships with our kids.

What have you done to show God’s forgiveness to your children? What are sometimes when you’ve had to seek forgiveness for not being the best example to them? How did they respond?

If you would like the opportunity to win a copy of this book simply leave a comment! That’s all. 

The giveaway will end on February 4th, 2018 at midnight central time. Winner will be contacted via email.


Lee is the author of Brave Moms, Brave Kids, a new book that is an equipping tool to help you…

  • identify the qualities present in true greatness
  • reject “mommy fears” and replace them with immovable truth
  • learn strategies for praying for and training your children more effectively
  • develop seven key lessons we must teach our children to live for Jesus

Courage starts with you, Mama. If you’re going to raise a hero, you must become a hero—because brave kids need brave moms. Let’s do this, together.

Find out more or pre-order here: Brave Moms, Brave Kids

I’m Back and I Have Exciting News!

Hi friends!

I know it’s been a long time since you’ve seen a post from me and there’s a good reason for it. I’ll be updating my site in the coming weeks but let’s just say my family has experienced a lot of changes over the last couple of years. Like I said, you’ll read all about that soon but for now, let’s talk about some other things.

Over the years I’ve had the opportunity to work with many great authors and bloggers as well as web developers and online business women. One of my favorites, Lisa Boyd, introduced me to Mandy Roberson several years ago. Earlier this year I began working with Mandy and her team of talented individuals as a graphic designer and ebook developer and marketing strategist.

We want to combine our services (and our contacts) to offer the best possible experience to as many clients as possible – which also allows us to share wonderful partnership opportunities like the one in today’s post!

If you don’t want to receive any of those opportunities (special launch team recruits, service specials, blog tour offers, etc.) then do nothing. You won’t be added to any list and you won’t be able to take advantage of any of the great stuff we offer, BUT if you do want to take part, sign up here:

For our first BIG collaborative project, we’re super thrilled to offer fun happenings like Lee Nienhuis’s Brave Moms, Brave Kids launch team opportunity to friends like you! If this particular campaign isn’t for you, but you would still like the chance to participate in future book releases and other really fun stuff, still sign up for the list and keep an eye out for future emails! We guarantee there will be other great opportunities coming your way! No hard feelings – we promise!

If you’re interested, here’s a bit more about Brave Moms, Brave Kids.

About Brave Moms, Brave Kids

Hey, Mama,

This world feels like it’s spinning faster every day. As the darkness has crept in, your brave prayers may have given way to fearful pleas that your kids would experience God’s kingdom—in a safe and comfortable way.

This generation needs heroes of the faith and your child can be one of them, but that will require you to be strong and BRAVE. You and I must call out the bold Christ followers within our children and help them face the unknown future with divine confidence.

Brave Moms, Brave Kids is an equipping tool that will help you…

  • identify the qualities present in true greatness
  • reject “mommy fears” and replace them with immovable truth
  • learn strategies for praying for and training your children more effectively
  • develop seven key lessons we must teach our children to live for Jesus

Courage starts with you, Mama. If you’re going to raise a hero, you must become a hero—because brave kids need brave moms. Let’s do this, together.


A Word from Lee…

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