Today I am over at Christin’s discussing chapter 2 of my book, Pursuit of Proverbs 31. I figured since I am asking all of you to be real and embrace your life and your uniqueness then I should do the same. We can’t hide from who we are. When we try to change to please others that is like telling God His design is flawed.
There are people in my past, present, and future who want to change me. They’d like nothing more than to make me a little more like the image they have conjured up in their mind. Unfortunately, I do that to other people too. For some reason we think everyone has to be like us and think like us. People will actually get offended at the way other people live their lives. Why do we do this? We judge others by their actions but we judge ourselves by our intentions. It’s wrong.
Am I saying that we are all right or without sin? No! There are some strict no-nos in the bible: no stealing, no adultery, no fornication, no lying, and on and on. However, there is no dictation as to how we should do the dishes or how we should clean a bathroom. There is no verse in the bible that dictates whether we should or shouldn’t put our kids in sports, write a blog, or style our hair either.
Some of us immediately put up a wall when it comes to certain topics. We avoid them at all costs for fear that it will put us into “that” category. “That” category is whatever one you are opposed to at the moment. Are we not over the categories? Are we not yet fully aware that none of us fit under one particular label?
While I strive to do certain things in life like serve my God and community, be a good wife, raise my kids right, keep my house clean, run a business and the like, I certainly never said I mastered any of it. I try. It is because I try that I succeed.
I think it is time we all get real. It is time to get past our past. Learn from it but move on. It’s also time we embrace our uniqueness. God didn’t make us all to be cookie cutter Stepford wives. He has a brilliant blueprint for each of us. No two will look alike.
None of us should try to fit into a mold. Just be you. Be the best YOU that you can be. Whether you are single, married, working, a mom, or whoever you are. For most of us the only stumbling block in our way is ourselves. You don’t try something different for fear of not being accepted or not being loved or by golly… what if someone says something about it? I know. I’ve been there and still go there from time to time.
I may have a messed up past but I have a amazing future and without that past I would not be who I am today. I love Jesus. I love my husband and my four boys. I miss my former spouse and look forward to seeing him in heaven one day. I want to live my life in a way that pays homage to what my Jesus did for me. I want to live in a way that brings glory to His name, serves others, and represents love.
Take all of these words and combine them with the rest of the words on this blog and they may seem all out of place. Look through all of the photos of me and my life and I make look like a completely different person at times but you know what? It is all me. It is me transforming and I’m still not done. We go through phases. We go through seasons in life. It is what we do with all of those experiences that makes a difference. We can use it for good or bad. I choose to have a good perspective and use it to grow. It is either a stepping stone or a stumbling block. All of life is. I hope you learn something from it.
Whenever you are in a tough situation and you don’t know what to do just ask yourself, “do you want to stumble or do you want to climb?” Are you ready to embrace the REAL you?